Someday You Realize Some Fights Aren’t Worth It

As time goes on, we realize more and more that some fights just aren’t worth it. We give up conversations, dreams we had in childhood, and even people we’ve met throughout our lives.

Instead of seeing these events as losses, we should see them for what they really are. They are things that we had put a lot of hope in, but gradually realized that they were not worth all our effort at all.

Experiencing personal growth, maturing and moving forward in life as time goes by is like successfully putting together a puzzle. At certain times in our lives, we enjoy putting certain puzzle pieces in the wrong place.

Only time and the ability to look back can ultimately help us see the truth: that some people and things just don’t fit our puzzle.

With the article below, we hope you’ll take a moment to think about this.

Sometimes it’s necessary to lose battles that aren’t worth the fight

During our childhood a lot of things come our way, without us choosing to do so. It’s like rafting on a wild river, nervous and full of enthusiasm.

One of the mistakes many of us make during childhood is falling head over heels in love with the first person they meet. Another example of these youthful mistakes is that we make friends with people just because we see them often. This could be, for example, our classmates or the friends of our friends.

Seeing these people as our friends is like being presented with a meal that you really don’t like at all. You end up eating this anyway because you don’t want to disappoint the preparer.

We behave this way during this stage in our lives because we have only one goal in mind: to become integrated into a society, in other words: to belong.

This is exactly what most teenagers do, as they take the first steps in their lives with the motivation to get validation from others. This includes listening to what other people say and doing the same as them.

However, as we get older, some things start to change. One day we become more picky about the friends we choose or the battles we get into – much more picky. In other words, there will come a day when we will know exactly what we do and don’t want in our lives.

Quality over quantity

Eventually, the day will come when we look at our lives and find that we have learned to build some true friendships instead of a lot of superficial ones.

We look back when we judge our feelings. However, the right thing to do is to listen carefully to what your heart is giving you. These messages can help you see certain things. For example:

• You finally realize that some of the things you thought were super important actually aren’t at all.
• For example, maybe you previously had a very active social life in which you hung out with all kinds of different people and you have now learned to value smaller groups of friends.
• Or have you previously been involved in several projects and have now learned to focus on only one project at a time.
• It’s even possible that you previously struggled for battles that really only caused you pain. For example, maybe you really wanted someone to love you, for your family to give you the recognition you deserved, or for people around you to see that you were good enough just the way you were.

• Now, however, you’ve learned to leave these battles for what they are. This is because you have become wiser. In addition, you have learned to listen to your intuition, which tells you to stop fighting for things that will only further remove you from your true self.

You only have to convince one person that you are good enough and that person is you. If people don’t love you, the last thing you should do is beg for their love.

Growing up means experiencing personal growth

Some battles are just not worth your effort. Engaging in these battles is like contradicting yourself. In addition, it is a sign that you are trying to change other people’s minds or that you hope they become someone you want them to be.

• As we mature, we realize more and more that some roads are best avoided. This is especially about those ways that others point out to us and that are contrary to the person we are.
• Ultimately, personal growth means being brave enough to say what we want and don’t want, without fear of what others will think or say about it.
• Going our own way requires that we cut some ties with people. This means that we have to give up everything that causes us sorrow and unnecessary struggle.

We do this to gain something even more important: dignity.

These kinds of personal steps are not at all easy to take. For example, there are still plenty of people who engage in impossible battles with things that really only destroy them and their self-confidence.

How to give up battles that aren’t worth it

First of all, it is important to know that this is by no means easy. Escaping these personal battlefields is something that requires a lot of effort.

Unfortunately, sometimes we think that continuing to fight for impossible relationships is the most worthy thing we can do. For example, we’ve all had friends with whom we kept hanging out despite all the betrayals. Some other examples are:

• We believe that we have to give everything for our family to be a good daughter, niece or sister.
• However, a lot of these battles are already lost in advance. This is because they only cause us pain. The people we fight for will never change, even if we think they do.
• Although it hurts, sometimes it’s best to  erase some people from your life. Free yourself from toxic relationships that destroy your confidence.  Remember, most of the time, the people who hurt you the most simply don’t love you.

Remember that bold people would never go to the trouble of doing things for which they themselves get nothing in return. Instead, these people are able to see which battles are worth their while: their own happiness and the happiness of their loved ones.